MORNING AFTER chats can be awkward, as in this scene from “Old School.”
Not that long ago, a woman wouldn’t sleep with a man until he at least SAID “I love you.” Nowadays, if a guy says “I love you,” after having sex for the first time, it’s excruciatingly awkward. Her best friend will later say something like, “Oh my God, Madison, I’m so sorry. I had no idea he was a stalker type when I introduced you.”
Of course, couples become intimate a lot sooner than in decades past. According to one survey, the current average is the fourth date. At that point, not only has love not blossomed, you might not even be sure you truly LIKE the other person. A woman may not know her bedmate’s favorite movie or his nickname. He most likely hasn’t given her a gift yet and doesn’t know her favorite color They probably haven’t had their first argument or even held hands.
So, how soon is too soon to say “I love you ”? And should you know your new sweetheart’s favorite color before you have sex? Leave your reply below.
The writer of this blog also wrote the romance novel The Blood of Titans. Here’s the book trailer. Check out this unique historical romance here.
The writer of this blog is C. Michael Forsyth, author of The Blood of Titans, a love story set in Africa.
Mark Wahlberg’s hunky character in the movie “Fear” was the perfect boyfriend–until he turned out to be raving psychopath.
By C. Michael Forsyth
Looking back at the first few weeks of courtship, you can often see there were warning signs of trouble down the road–signs you ignored because you were basting in the warm glow of new love. I dated one girl who had a habit of talking about herself in third person. As in, “Kaye Washington doesn’t take orders from anyone.” Another early warning sign was that when I said, “Girl, you so crazy,” she glared at me and responded, “NEVER call me crazy.” In retrospect perhaps it is unsurprising that our relationship encountered more than a few bumps…after we got married.
Were there warning signs that your relationship would be rocky? Or perhaps you have a friend who ignored red flags to their later regret. What are some early warning signs that Mr. or Miss Right is really Mr. or Miss Wrong? Leave your reply below.
The writer of this blog is C. Michael Forsyth, author of the new romance novel The Blood of Titans.