Early Warning Signs Your New Sweetheart is a Nut

Mark Wahlberg's hunky character in the movie "Fear" was the perfect boyfriend--until he turned out to be raving psychopath.

Mark Wahlberg’s hunky character in the movie “Fear” was the perfect boyfriend–until he turned out to be raving psychopath.

By C. Michael Forsyth

Looking back at the first few weeks of courtship, you can often see there were warning signs of trouble down the road–signs you ignored because you were basting in the warm glow of new love. I dated one girl who had a habit of talking about herself in third person. As in, “Kaye Washington doesn’t take orders from anyone.” Another early warning sign was that when I said, “Girl, you so crazy,” she glared at me and responded, “NEVER call me crazy.” In retrospect perhaps it is unsurprising that our relationship encountered more than a few bumps…after we got married.

Were there warning signs that your relationship would be rocky? Or perhaps you have a friend who ignored red flags to their later regret. What are some early warning signs that Mr. or Miss Right is really Mr. or Miss Wrong? Leave your reply below.

The writer of this blog is C. Michael Forsyth, author of the new romance novel The Blood of Titans.

The writer of this blog is C. Michael Forsyth, author of the new romance novel The Blood of Titans.

WILL SIDE CHICKS BURN IN HELL FOREVER?

SERVING UNDER THE PRESIDENT: Kerry Washington as Olivia Pope works closely with the staff of President Fitz Grant (Tony Goldwyn) in "Scandal."

SERVING UNDER THE PRESIDENT: Kerry Washington as Olivia Pope works closely with the staff of President Fitz Grant (Tony Goldwyn) in “Scandal.”

By. C. Michael Forsyth

2013 was the Year of the Side Chick in popular culture, with glamorous single ladies like the ones portrayed by Kerry Washington in Scandal and Gabrielle Union in Being Mary Jane caught up in steamy affairs with married men. I don’t get the appeal. To me, a gal whose romantic fantasy is to be the other woman is like a boy who dreams about one day being a co-pilot.

Many women relate because they’ve played the role of homewrecker at some point in their lives — and some express no moral qualms about it. They point out that only the married person in the extramarital affair is committing adultery and so, morally, they’re off the hook. But in addition to the 7th Commandment banning adultery, the 10th Commandment forbids you to covet your neighbor’s spouse. So, sleep with a married man and you’ve also committed a moral sin. You wind up in Hell just like the cheating hubby.

How do you see it? Check the other replies below, then say your piece.

The writer of this blog is C. Michael Forsyth, author of the new romance novel The Blood of Titans.

The writer of this blog is C. Michael Forsyth, author of the new romance novel The Blood of Titans.

WHAT PROBING QUESTION SHOULD A WOMAN ASK A GUY ON THE FIRST DATE?

On the first date, a woman will usually ask a guy what he does for a living, what he does for fun and so on. But there are some questions that might give her more insight into what the dude is all about. Here’s one that comes to my mind: “What is your favorite tool?” If he just looks at you, baffled, and says he doesn’t have one, that’s a warning sign he won’t be very handy around the house. Another is “What’s the most important thing you’ve learned so far in life?” What do you think a lady should ask? Click replies below to read other folks’ comments, then leave your own.