By C. Michael Forsyth

We all know that honesty is the best policy. But sometimes we feel, in the immortal words of Jack Nicholson, “You can’t handle the truth.” Surely it’s just a white lie to trim down the number of past lovers you’ve had when your new sweetheart inquires. To subtract a few or perhaps divide by 10? Please comment below!


  1. Definitely a bad idea for a woman to disclose. The majority of men will judge & eventually throw it in her face during an argument. Some want details & want to compare themselves with your past lovers. It’s on a need to know basis & they don’t need to know.

  2. At one point in my youth I had an embarrassingly meager roster of conquests and thus was tempted to beef up the number of notches on my bedpost. But I decided to instead come clean about my inexperience, and that turned out to be just fine with my new girlfriend.

    In general, I believe coyness is a better choice than outright lying. A girl who’s been around the block could say, “You know, I don’t really feel comfortable about answering a question like that. Let me put it this way: I don’t consider myself a promiscuous person.” Or the more clever, “Well, this isn’t my first time. Is it more important to you to be my first, or my last.”

  3. CA : Gals listen to me, no matter wat era you are in men prefer the “experienced virgin” . Never reveal the truth about your conquest to any man. Absolutely avoid it and delay it as long as you can (like Mitt and the tax returns),If he is persistent make sure your numbers are less than 5 trust me that’s the most he can both mentally and dick tabulate.k

  4. I once dated a guy that said he refused to perform cunnilingus because he had seen the seat of too many dirty underpants. The same concept can be applied to former loves, lusts, and one night stands. You can see too much, witness too much and it leaves a bad taste in your mouth. There is no need for a woman or a man to disclose how may past loves they have had because it will make you look like a whore and leave a bad taste in your mouth.

    My argument is as follows: A woman of 57 can have experienced 20 partners during the past 30 years. Yet a young woman that is 25-27 years old can have easily experienced 30 partners in the past 10 years. Either way, both women sound like whores. It doesn’t matter if you want get nit-picky on such a subject opting to choose whether we are talking actual intercourse, fooling around or some other forms of physical release?

    I would never disclose the number of partners I have had even if it were five. The better question is whether you are getting checked and presenting your partner with proof of clean health.

  5. Many people ask questions they don’t want the answer to. This should be established first. Love doesn’t work without trust. If love is not in the equation, then the situation is more akin to a job application. Everyone wants some experience on a resume. In this case too little may be viewed as naive or pathetic, too much looks like one can’t hold a job. The US Supreme Court has held that it is legal to lie on a resume. But when you do lie, the truth eventually catches up to you.

  6. Although I have always been honest about such things, I do think it’s probably a mistake, especially for a woman. Some men would not want to hear about a woman’s past even tho he knows she has one, no matter how limited. Other men want to know every detail of who, what & where. Depending on what decade you grew up in, you will be judged in some way. Men seem to get more of a pass than women. But when I see very young women (girls, actually) on shows like “Maury” I am always blabbergasted at the number of guys they have slept with — not just “so far” but in ONE freaking week! Which is why they’re on the show searching for their “baby daddy.” Thirteen-year-olds brag about having had sex with 30 men or more. Pretty sad really. By the time they reach middle age, they will have slept with hundreds & hundreds of men if they keep up that pace. And that’s way too many in my opinion. Unless they are trying for the Guinness World Record!

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